vfio-mdev: Make mdev_parent private

Rather than hoping for good behavior by marking some elements
internal, enforce it by making the entire structure private and
creating an accessor function for the one useful external field.

Cc: Zhenyu Wang <zhenyuw@linux.intel.com>
Cc: Zhi Wang <zhi.a.wang@intel.com>
Cc: Jike Song <jike.song@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Reviewed by: Kirti Wankhede <kwankhede@nvidia.com>